What is Soul Sleep and Do the Holy Scriptures Disprove It? – Part 2 of 2

Continuing with the New Testament and its supposed teaching on the ‘immortal soul’ I will now explain the next passage of Holy Scripture that the wretched web page uses to try and prove its flawed teaching:

Rev 6:9-10 And when he had opened the fifth seal, I saw under the altar the souls (life blood) of them that were slain for the word of God, and for the testimony which they held: 10 And they cried with a loud voice, saying, How long, O Lord, holy and true, dost thou not judge and avenge our blood on them that dwell on the earth?

Now this passage is very interesting and if read as literal then the reader has lost the plot entirely, which, of course, is what Spiritually dead people do, especially Spiritually dead Christian religious types; in Truth they are not qualified to read and understand the Book of Revelation. With Revelation it’s all a vision that John saw, just like a hologram. He saw images in his mind, images given him by the Lord Jesus Christ. There was no physical substance to anything that John saw, just visual images. The Transfiguration was exactly the same. Moses and Elijah appeared as visual images in the disciple’s minds.

Revelation is also full of symbolism as are other parts of the Holy Scriptures and one of those places, which is also relevant to this study, is Genesis:

Gen 4:10 And he said, What hast thou done? The voice of thy brother’s blood crieth unto me from the ground.

Here we can see that Abel’s blood metaphorically cries out to the Lord from the ground and so it is with these ‘souls’ under the altar (more symbolism). Now John sees images of them crying aloud just like Abel’s blood. Not forgetting too that the word ‘soul’ is also translated ‘breathing creature’ or ‘life’ or ‘life blood’ in this case. We also need to realise that spilt blood is the crucial element here that must be avenged. As it was with Abel’s blood, so it is with the saint’s blood in verse 10 above. If I now copy verse 11 of Revelation 6 we will see how the wretched web page makes further mistakes:

Rev 6:11 And white robes were given unto every one of them; and it was said unto them, that they should rest yet for a little season, until their fellowservants also and their brethren, that should be killed as they were, should be fulfilled.

What is this verse actually saying, because the wretched web page is saying that this verse proves that our souls live after death, but we know already from all the evidence and proof I have given in part one that this is not true, so they must be reading into this verse something that is not there. We mustn’t forget that John is still in vision mode and is not seeing real human beings only images of human beings who are receiving white robes. Now who receives white robes? Why, those who are Born Again in this life. Do we, as Born Again sons and daughters of God, physically, see these white robes? No, but do they exist? Yes. As the Father looks down from heaven at us He sees us wearing white robes. When we are Born Again of the Holy Spirit we are immediately clothed in white robes just as our names are written in the Book of Life. Can we physically prove that these things have taken place? No. Do we know as faithful followers of the Lord Jesus Christ that they have taken place? Yes, most definitely.

OK, so these human images in John’s vision were given white robes that John could actually see; how’s that? Easy, he was seeing things, via this vision, from the heavenly perspective; he was seeing these people just as the Father sees them from His throne in heaven. Now notice what takes place: it was said unto them that they should now take a rest. What does this mean? Quite simply it means they died. You see, ‘immortal souls’ don’t get tired, they are supposed to be spirit, and spirit never rests, nor does it need to. The word ‘rest’ in Strong’s Concordance states it as ‘repose’ which is also the word they use for describing the laying down of people in their graves, and of course this is what John is seeing in his vision, the saints falling asleep until it’s time for them to be resurrected when the Lord returns.

The wretched web page then goes on to site the story of Lazarus and the rich man as another pathetic example of so called evidence for the ‘immortal soul’. Fortunately I have already written two articles on this subject entitled: “The Parable of Lazarus and the Rich Man – Parts 1 and 2” So I don’t have to say anything here.

We then get a verse or two from 1 Peter:

1 Peter 3:18-19 For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit: 19 By which also he went and preached unto the spirits in prison.

I am not going to spend too much time on this subject either, for there are only one group of spirits that are in prison and they are evil spirits. They were imprisoned after they fell from their original estate as mentioned in Jude:

Jude 1:6 And the angels which kept not their first estate, but left their own habitation, he hath reserved in everlasting chains under darkness unto the judgment of the great day.

These are the spirits that the Lord preached to, not human ‘immortal souls’ that do not exist. I would cry with laughing if these people were not so wretched with their foolish ideas.

Their next comment about 2 Cor 5 displays their total Spiritual blindness, for they have no grasp of what it means to be Born Again:

2 Cor 5:6-9 Therefore we are always confident, knowing that, whilst we are at home in the body, we are absent from the Lord: 7 (For we walk by faith, not by sight:) 8 We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord. 9 Wherefore we labour, that, whether present or absent, we may be accepted of Him.

Ha, ha, this one is even more hilarious than the last. OK, I’m sure I haven’t got to explain to you what these silly people are trying to make out this, so I will go straight into what it does mean. What Paul is saying here is the same thing that he said in Romans 7:14-25. Please see my article: “Was the Apostle Paul a Schizophrenic? – Romans 7:14-25.” Once Born Again we become two people; new Spiritual beings in old carnal bodies of sin. If we are “at home” with the body we are being too comfortable with it and we are, by default, in our thoughts and possibly in our actions, ‘absent from the Lord’. Our attention has most likely drifted entirely on to the wrong things. Obviously, it would be better if we were absent from the body and present with the Lord i.e. keeping our focus on Him. This passage of Holy Scripture is all about how, or if, our walk with the Lord is on track or, maybe, at times, not on track, but at the same time knowing that if our inner desire is always to be present with the Lord, whether present or absent, we are still accepted of Him – this is grace in action, folks, and has nothing to do with Roman Catholic hallucinations of ‘immortal souls’.

Now is my explanation here just an excuse to carry on sinning come what may? Nay, God forbid, and He will if we go too far with being too comfortable with the body for too long. In the worst case scenarios He will allow us to end up in the pigs sty eating out their troughs, just like the Prodigal Son.

Matt 22:32 I am the God of Abraham, and the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob? God is not the God of the dead, but of the living.

Now does this verse tell us that Abraham, Isaac and Jacob are still alive as ‘immortal souls’ floating around in heaven doing nothing? No. OK, so what does it tell us? Easy, it tells us God is the God of the Spiritually alive as were the aforementioned patriarchs. We must understand that those who are Spiritually dead are, to all intents and purposes, completely dead to God. Yes, they are alive physically, but without the Holy Spirit residing in them they are as good as dead, for they will never experience eternal Spiritual life until they do get given the Holy Spirit and this will not take place until the second resurrection. So are Abraham, Isaac and Jacob still dead in their graves? Yes of course and they will remain there until the Lord returns to this earth in the not too distant future. Again we must understand that the Lord Jesus Christ is the firstfruits and He is the only human being that has been resurrected to Spiritual eternal life. He has to come first in the order of things. There is no way that an ordinary human being could precede Him into eternal life – no way and with that Truth I hope you can now see the blasphemy that is the idea that mere mortals were resurrected before Him. The Holy Scriptures are clear: King David; a man after God’s heart is still dead in his grave as are Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Moses and all the other prophets. No one is floating around in a Roman Catholic cuckoo land realm of ‘immortal souls.’ It doesn’t exist folks, it’s all Egyptian and Greek fairy tales.

John 11:25-26 Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: 26 And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this?

So, here we go with yet another attempt to try and prove that we have ‘immortal souls’, but is it just nonsense to assume that these verses say that? Yes, of course it’s nonsense. I will copy here the Living Bible version of these two verses for they are a more easily understood:

John 11:25-26 Jesus told her, “I am the one who raises the dead and gives them life again. Anyone who believes in me, even though he dies like anyone else, shall live again. 26 He is given eternal life for believing in me and shall never perish. Do you believe this Martha?”

Notice, straight away, what the Lord says; He is the one who raises THE DEAD, not raises people’s ‘immortal souls’. Nor does He say He changes ‘immortalised souls’ into resurrected Spirit beings. I have put this dimension in deliberately, just in case the deluded wretches think that their ‘immortal soul’ business is some kind of nonsensical half way house between our present physical existence and our future Spiritual existence!! Do not be surprised by the garbage that floats around in the minds of these religious weirdoes. Notice now what the Lord says next: “Anyone who believes in me, even though he dies, like anyone else, shall live again.” All people die and death means death i.e. no consciousness, just as King Solomon states in Ecclesiastes and as I quoted in part one. We must also take into consideration that after the Lord Jesus Christ, King Solomon was the wisest man who ever lived. We therefore have to realise, based on this information, that he knew what he was talking about, unlike the men of the Christian religion!! Notice, too, that the Lord says “and shall live again” and by default this must mean death prior to living again. The scenario of “living again” cannot be achieved unless death has occurred first. If we are alive immediately after death or at the instant we die, then there can be no death; death does not occur.

Gen 35:18 And it came to pass, as her soul was in departing, (for she died) that she called his name Benoni: but his father called him Benjamin.

This verse is a classic example of how not to read moronic rubbish into God’s Holy Word. Notice, her breath (soul) was departing and then it puts in brackets for the religious wackos: for — she — died – DOH! How do these silly people read immortality into this situation when it isn’t there!? All it is saying is this: her breath was failing and leaving her – she was dying – period.

Jude 1:7 Even as Sodom and Gomorrah, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire.

“Note that they are presently suffering, and thus not unconscious.”

Now this is what the wretched web page is saying about this verse, but is the verse saying that? No, a thousand times no. Sodom and Gomorrah are there in the Holy Scriptures as an example for all time. They suffered the vengeance of fire that is eternal and the Greek word for eternal, i.e. aionios, which actually means ‘an age’ or ‘a period of time’ – a duration. God’s fire is ‘eternal’ or ‘perpetual’ until it has accomplished all that it is required of it – the purging of sin and rebelliousness in certain religious people, and when there is nothing further for it to burn, it will go out as all fire does. The fire and brimstone poured out over Sodom and Gomorrah did its job and then went out, it didn’t burn forever. The occupants were killed and that was that. God never stays angry forever, it is not part of His character and so it is with His fire, as mainstream Christians will find out in the future, if they do not repent of their futile religion – their religious dross will be burnt off in aionios fire.

Luke 23:43 And Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, To day shalt thou be with me in paradise.

I have dealt with this verse in an article entitled: “Verily I Say Unto Thee, Today Shalt Thou Be With Me in Paradise.” Again, Oh Really, Is That So!?”

The wretched web page then goes on to mention the Transfiguration which, like Revelation, was a vision given to the disciples. The Lord Jesus Christ was the only living soul revealed in that vision; Moses and Elijah were just holograms or images in the disciple’s minds. OK, that just about wraps it up. Any questions, you know what to do?

Repairing a Damaged Relationship – Reconnecting Soul-Love – The Essence of Great Relationships

What does it mean in emotional terms to have Soul Love?

Have you stood on a lookout point somewhere in the world and been simply stunned by the view. You can’t touch it, change it, fix it, even taking a photo feels like it can’t capture the essence of it? You see that view, but what you feel is something completely different. Some people say, “I’ve been here before,” even though, in this lifetime they have not. There’s a memory – the memory is not always of the view, it’s a memory of the feeling, a familiarity.

This is Soul Love. A memory and when we feel it, we say, “yes, I have felt this before,” and we have.

There are moments that entrepreneurs don’t often speak about because they sound intangible and too personal to put words to, but every entrepreneur, in fact, every human being, has them. They are moments of arrival.

Moments such as those are like the alignment of the stars, but really, they are even more profound than that. They are the alignment of body, mind and spirit. A moment of deep personal recognition, a memory of something so deep and yet so intangible, we struggle to put a name to it. Inspired is close, Soul Love is closer, divine is yet again, a reach toward it. But it remains nameless. Maybe, just maybe, it is simply, truth.

Soul Love has no attachment, however, we want as much of it as we can get. People have done the most extraordinary things to get it, to keep hold of it and to celebrate it. We often marry the person we feel this feeling toward, but this is like buying the view, eventually the connection becomes evasive.

There are techniques to guarantee Soul Love connection does not fade like the view. For example, a period away from that view will potentially bring you back to it like a novice, once again stunned at the beauty, connected to the moment, mesmerised once more.

Meditation, done correctly can wipe the fog from our heart and allow this moment of connection to shine again.

Sexuality (Refer: The Currency of Sexual Energy – Yasin Sheryl de Jong. ISBN 9781921578663 www.bookpal.com.au)

Healing, the Eastern healer enters this zone of Soul Love inspiration in order to delve beneath the crust of the human condition.

Prayer, a deep gratitude can bring this connection back to the surface of life.

Poetry and music has been used for centuries to bypass the ego mind and tap the deeper recesses of the human Soul Love connections.

Guru’s and the touch of a divinely connected hand can bring this state of consciousness to an individual.

Travel into nature rekindles the inner child, the innocence of being new and awakens so many memories deep historic Soul Love memories.

Falling in Love cuts straight past the surface direct to the memory of Soul Love.

Dance can allow the mind to wander far enough off track for the worries and cares of life to be swept aside and for a deep body memory of Soul Love to emerge. Ecstasy.

The Quest

The quest for these Soul Love connections is the real motive of human existence. We forget this, and buy a car, hoping this will give us this moment, and sometimes it does, for a few seconds. We climb mountains hoping that, by the top, we reconnect to this precious memory. We build companies in order to free us to experience more Soul Love moments, but we forget, and the company becomes the mission.

Soul Love is the human mission. We want moments of it.

In a relationship we feel it, at least at first meeting, but it is hard to sustain. And then we walk down the street to get the milk and in the corner store we collide with another Soul Love moment.

That person and our person collide and now we are confused.

Should we be guilty? Should we do something, say something? In these moments of connection we feel our current relationship diminish, this moment is what we married for. We crave it in our deepest being and yet, we work, make families, build houses and farms and have lots of other things. We crave this Soul Love and when we are touched by it, we remember why we started something.

We started a business to feel that moment of divine inspiration that comes when a great idea manifests. We married because in those first moments of meeting our partner the Soul Love memory woke up. We remember and we so easily forget. We so easily lose contact with “why” we chose a certain path, and begin to focus on what to do to survive without Soul Love connections.

Lets ask ourselves this question. “What happens when we get into a relationship triggered by that Soul Love connection, but then lose contact with it? What do we do when we are at the checkout and find Soul Love connection with another person? Start a collection?


Soul love is perfect, we can feel it at a party, at the office or wherever, but it is not a motive. Soul-love is no reason to do anything. In fact, if you have to split up with a partner, all you do is return to Soul love for them, and there’s no attachment at all. This is both a  state of healing and one of connection.

Wanting something motivates us. Losing something hurts us. But Soul-love is a vacuum in which there is no motive. We don’t want anything, need anything, desire anything. So, the motive to marry someone is not because we have a Soul Love connection to them, because we can have a thousand, million, billion people we have Soul Love connection to.

We marry people because we have Soul Love connection to them AND because we have trust, admiration, appreciation and vision for the future with them.

In marriage we can often lose one or all of those important relationship ingredients, but we can never lose Soul Love for a person. And this is a really important awareness in relationship. Once you feel the connection, it lasts forever.

Sure, Soul Love can become fogged with stress, anger, and busy-ness, and sure, Soul Love is no penultimate reason to stay in a relationship where the other four ingredients are missing, but, if you are going to place one thing, between you are your partner as absolute and sacred, place Soul Love way above the rest.

To feel Soul Love for a person, male or female is a great connection and it has nothing to do with causing or killing romance.

Soul Love is by far the most important level of communion between two individuals. Without it, relationships are complex and emotionally unstable.

It is even more important to acknowledge this Soul Love connection when one or both people in a relationship are struggling with commitment. The ability to let a person spin and search their heart for appreciation, trust, admiration and hope for the future, that ability to stand in stillness without reaction can be found in the capacity to acknowledge a Soul Love connection to a partner that can never fade.

Sometimes we get scared. Sometimes we get jealous. Sometimes we even get resentful of our partner. These are not because of Soul Love connection but because of emotional attachments. They are a part of the struggle to be human in relationship, but they are not a reflection of the depth of your Soul Love.

Many people tell me that the more they love their partner the more jealous they become. This is inaccurate. The more we feel Soul Love for our partner, the more we can relax. They can come or go, leave or stay, it will not matter if your connection with them is based in Soul Love.

The Real Essence

Some people think that Soul Love is exclusive. That we have this experience with one person, and exclude all others. Others stay single just so they can have as many of these connections as life permits.

It is safe to say that we need and want Soul Love connections and irrespective of our moral or social judgements about it, we do have them with multiple people. So, there are only two important questions. How do we have as many of these moments with our partner instead of becoming “familiar with the view?” And the second question is, “What do we do when, while in a relationship, we have these connections with others?”

The first question is the most difficult. How do we sustain moments of Soul Love connection with someone we become familiar with on an everyday basis?

Conventional attempts to sustain these Soul Love moments with a partner include: gifts, holidays, babies, sex, romance, new homes, picnics, pornography, self help courses, tantra and theatre.

But even these, over an extended period can become like the view we own.

To understand how to have more Soul Love connection moments with a partner, it may be important to understand the mechanics of Soul Love experiences.

You are sitting at your desk, the Sun is shining in the sky, but you don’t look up and think, wow, there’s the Sun. You just enjoy the daylight and night light (moonlight is Sunlight). Sometimes you see the Sunrise or Sunset and you marvel at the Sun. So, Soul Love is Sunlight. It’s there 24/7 never missing. Without it we’d shrivel and become dust. However, we don’t always think about it.

Sometimes a person triggers our memory that Soul Love is really there, and like a Sunset or Sunrise, we feel great at that incredible recollection.

The key to enjoying the Sunrise and the Sunset, remembering the great beauty of the Sun, is that it makes us take notice. In that warm early morning or late evening glow, we just put down tools for a few seconds and turn up right in the moment.

Driving a car, it’s hard to admire the Sunrise or Sunset. We’ve got our mind on the job of keeping safe, so, we might go wow for a nano second and then get back to driving.

Soul Love moments can happen fifty times a day, but if we’re “driving the car” – too busy to notice, we’ll slide right past in a blink. Gone.

In relationship, we’re driving a car. We’re romancing, dancing, prancing, freelancing. We’re eating, showering, talking, thinking, emoting, wishing, wanting, not wanting, hoping, caring, not caring, worrying, giving, taking, sexing, pleasing and more… So, that takes a lot of head-space.

So, the Sun is there, Soul Love is there, but we’ve got so much going on in our tiny head that we just blink and keep focussed on “bringing up the kids” or “paying the bills.” We blink, and the Sun is out of mind.

We recognise the loss. Something seems wrong. We’re in a relationship, doing relationship, being invested in good relationship, trying to please, making the effort, but we know something isn’t right. And what is not right is that in amongst all the pleasure seeking, love making, family caring, life creating, home building, and health preserving activities, we lost contact.

Imagine a space shuttle losing contact with earth. Imagine a kite without a string. Imagine a ship without a compass. Imagine a story without an ending. Imagine anything without an intent. It’s impossible to imagine that such things would be good. And it’s impossible to imagine a relationship without Soul Love at its core.

But that’s what happens. That’s one reason why couples have affairs, why lovers exist, why people become disenchanted with life and most often throw themselves into their work, trying to avoid the tedium of a relationship without the Sun.

I have lived that life. I have experienced that life just like millions of other people throughout the world. I caused it, I suffered in it, I searched for options and tried all sorts of bandages to repair it. But none work.

If the connection is blocked, the contact with mother earth is lost and with that, everything becomes mundane. I tried all the substitutes: Food, alcohol, substances, greed, sex, spirituality – none work. None replace the incredible life giving, health creating, heart opening experience of Soul Love connection.

In that time I was limited by two vital things. The first was that the only experience I could have of Soul Love connection was with a woman. I couldn’t find it, or more likely, didn’t recognise it, anywhere else. That was a real dependency on my relationship and when it faded, a real vulnerability with other women.

The second limitation I had was that, I confused wanting that Soul Love connection with my partner with romance, intimacy, relationship and responsibility. Everything else in my entrepreneurial life was achieved by wanting it bad enough. I wanted success, I just really motivated myself. I wanted family and wealth I just motivated myself. Life, in my model, was up for grabs. So, when it came to Soul Love, I just applied the same head-space. Foolish thinking…


The Sun doesn’t reach out and say, “hey, please take my rays” just like Soul Love doesn’t reach out and grab someone by the throat and say, “Love me.” If we’re in a messed up space, filled up with worries, wants, desires, needs, fears, ambitions, expectations, drama, emotion, stress, anxiety, motivation, and loneliness, we block the Sun. Soul love doesn’t come to us, it comes from us.

We get into relationship feeling that Soul Love connection and the first thing most of us do is stuff it up by letting all our “relationship baggage” come it and plug the pipe, block the Sun, close the portal.

Then we start to fuss and talk and complain and worry. “Oh, hell, here I am again. In another loveless relationship. More hassles, less joy.”

The single greatest discovery you can have for relationship, and one that will really transform your dynamic with your partner is the realisation that the feeling of love you are wanting to get from your partner is actually coming from you, not to you.

If I take you into nature, Up into the Himalayas for example, you’ll love everyone and feel like everyone loves you. Suddenly you feel loved and loving. Weird? No, because out in nature, when your expectations drop away and all the “relationship baggage” falls off, you suddenly feel it. You feel Soul Love connection going on, without anyone to connect it to.

Suddenly you discover that it’s not your partner that is the cause of Soul Love connection, it’s you. You also discover that you can’t give people Soul Love connection, you can only share it.

My partner says, “let me in” and I say, “Piss off. Nobody comes in here.”

I used to let people come into my being just as if I’d created a beautiful garden and anybody could trample around, borrow the flowers, pick the fruit and stomp the grass. That was how needy and out of balance I was. Now, it’s different. I preserve this Soul Love experience inside myself and I know, what’s meant to be shared comes out.

I look at it like this. Fill a cup half full and then share it. As you do, you get less, someone gets more. You give some and lose some. So, that to me is like focussing on getting Soul Love connection. Instead of that head-space, I now fill the cup to the top and let it overflow, what comes over the top is absolutely unconditional. It’s my job to go inside and keep that connection, not someone else’s.

That’s a big shift. It means instead of having one Soul Love connection in my life I have thousands. Instead of it being limited to women, it’s available with all humanity. Instead of it being a freak accident, I can choose it anytime.

If you want your relationship to stay anchored in Soul Love you need to make sure your cup is full – and more. The way to do this is to stay focussed on the four virtues of high emotions: kindness, generosity, compassion and appreciation. That keeps your energy circulating, then, last but not least, learn how to really turn up.

How quickly that Soul Love connection disappears from view has a lot to do with how much stress I am having in my life. The more stressed I am, the faster the connection becomes vague.

We have to learn how to stop the rush and deal with the “relationship baggage” in order to stay connected.

Learn to sit in silence, turn the TV off, turn the silence on, and fall back into Soul-Love. Remind yourself everyday that Soul-love never dies, it just gets covered by stuff, old stuff, new stuff and ambitious stuff.

“All human evil comes from a single cause, man’s inability to sit still in a room. And, all men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone”. – Blaise Pascal

The idea of stopping, breathing, smelling, tasting love had never occurred to me. I’d measured my love in pleasure’s and shouts and ecstasy, this was all new.

Exercises in Soul-Love Connection

Step 1.

Take a rose and sit it in front of you. Try to relax your posture and keep your spine quite straight. Look at the rose. Observe it. Observe it with your eyes. Now observe it with your ears. Listen. Now observe it with your nose, smell. Now touch it with your fingers or draw it up next to your skin.

Here, there is still a rose, and there is still a you. The rose is there, you are there.

This is normal life, everything is individualised. Separate. Hold the rose in front of you, or place it on a table in front of you.

Continue the exercise.

Step 2.

With the rose in front of you extend the exercise to a mastery level by losing the separation between yourself and this rose. This is the culmination of years in Zen practice but you are a modern person with an incredibly developed and evolved mind, so it will not take you much time at all if you can follow these instructions.

Each individual aspect of that rose has to become absorbed into you. First the visual interpretation has to vanish. We do this by simply identifying all the aspects of the rose within ourselves. Say, for example: where are you delicate? Where are you perfectly shaped? This is a Zen practice of elimination of separation, detachment. So, then proceed to all the other aspects of the rose until you find that what the rose is, you are. As you progress without interruption the separation between you and the rose will, I assure you, vanish.

Then you will not see, hear, taste, touch, smell the rose. It will not exist in a form separate from you.

If this does not work for you after five attempts on five different days with a fresh flower on each day, change the rose to something else that is impeccably beautiful to you. Even a vista can be caused to become merged with the self.

Step 3.

Sit with your partner in front of you. Look for their real essence and beauty. Look with your heart, ears, nose, mouth and hands. Don’t be afraid to touch and feel the beauty. Breathe the beauty in with each breath and let it move you. To really fall into Soul-love you will need to practice this exercise until you merge with your partner. Merge until there is no separation. You will eventually bridge the gap between what you see and who you are, and in other words, dismantle your ego.

At first it takes time. Just look, feel and become in rhythm with your partner’s breathing. Make sure you’ve cleaned your teeth and freshened your breath before this exercise. I tried it once with a person with bad breath and it’s very distracting.

Eventually you will do this is seconds instead of hours. It’s natural. As long as your mind doesn’t intervene and say, “Hey, this is a person over there, is the technique working.”

The most important thing to remember is that this person is just like the rose. You were not seducing the rose, trying to make the rose smile at you. You were no staring into the rose trying to look into it’s eyes and make it feel horny. You were becoming the rose. Remember this at all times.

Soul-Love happens when we forget the separation between ourselves and what we experience outside ourselves. So, the great memory that is triggered in a Soul-Love experience is the memory of our connection to life, the universe and all that goes with it.

This is Soul Love and it is not the reason for relationship but it is the cause of the grounding that makes relationship possible and desirable.

If you have struggled to remain committed to a relationship, or you’ve had a great relationship that finished and can’t seem to reconnect with that essence, then look carefully at your practices surrounding Soul-Love.

Soul-Love does not come to you, it comes from you. If your “relationship baggage” seems to quickly flood the potential of a good connection with someone, then it’s a high likely hood that you’ve got some unfinished business with the past or present that’s blocking your connections.

Everybody connects, the only question is whether the noise in their life is making it harder to feel.

If you are in a relationship and have lost this connection don’t blame your partner, it has nothing to do with them. It is because you have blocked the Sun through distraction or diligence to your professional life.

Remembering that Soul Love is the essence of relationship but not the motivation for it, the whole key to authenticity and comfort in a relationship, and the real choice to work through the challenges that come will be built around this core of Soul-Love. It can’t be emphasised enough how much this connection can transform even a damaged relationship let alone, inspire a healthy one.

Have You Got Soul?

Have you ever wondered how you could differentiate your business from your competitors? Do you struggle to come up with what makes you unique? Well, so did I until a while ago! The day I finally distilled my business’s unique essence was a major turning point for me. My business finally had soul!

Now, what do I mean by a business having soul? Let me share with you a few words that mean the same thing as “soul.”

Here they are:

  • Essence = the quality or nature of something that identifies it or makes it what it is
  • Spirit = the intention behind something such as a rule or decree, rather than its literal interpretation;
  • Life force = the vital force that characterizes a human being as being alive;
  • Character = distinctive qualities; the set of qualities that make somebody or something distinctive, especially somebody’s qualities of mind and feeling;
  • Inner self = relating to somebody’s private feelings or happening in somebody’s mind;
  • Chi = energy of life; in Chinese medicine and philosophy, the energy or life force of the universe, believed to flow round the body and to be present in all living things. The manipulation of chi is the basis of acupuncture and Chinese martial arts.

Putting all these words and meanings together, we can say that the soul of a business is:

  • The quality or nature that makes it uniquely what it is;
  • The intention behind the business rather than its immediately obvious purpose;
  • The vital force that characterizes a business and brings it alive;
  • The qualities that make a business distinctive;
  • The “mind” and “feelings” of the business;
  • The life force that flows around the business and impacts the world!


Going by my definition above, can you see what a great difference having “soul” could make to your business? Being soul-rich, you are not just another hypnotherapist, life coach or financial planner. You are not just any old web designer, physical trainer or beautician. You are a woman on a unique mission, with a unique vision, to impact the world in a unique way! Yes, there are millions of accountants and coaches and trainers. But none with the same vital life force flowing round their company, through their teams and out into the market as you. Your soul makes you UNIQUELY YOU! It attracts those who resonate with who you are. Like-souls, if you like!

The essence or soul of my business is women empowerment! My clients typically seek some BIG WHY beyond more clients, but getting more clients empowers them to achieve this. And I am happy to be the one who supports them on this quest. We use the vehicle of your business to reach your bigger picture – the power to be who you want to be and to live the life you want! In my own life I have bounced back from domestic violence and subsequent homelessness therefore my pet women empowerment issue is the fight against domestic violence to women. My business supports this cause and has adopted a related charity.

If you can find and articulate the soul of your business then you can express it in your marketing. You can weave it into your services and programs and instil it in the minds of your staff and team members. Exuding this “soul” will separate you from the many others in your field and attract those people who are kindred souls. Being soulful in your business is client-attractive! When your soul shines through, you attract not just clients, but ideal, “like-energied” ones.

Feedback: What is the “intention behind your business, other than its immediately obvious purpose?” Apart from making money, or rendering your services, how are you impacting your community through your business?

Spiritual Business Owners – How to Sell Your Services By Telling The Truth

Is telling the ‘truth’ applicable to every spiritual business owner?

In short, yes!

  • Do you think of ‘selling your services’, as though you’d be selling your soul?
  • Do you think your clients might judge you, or think you are bothering them by contacting them with a ‘sales’ pitch?
  • Do you think that they MIGHT think YOU are all about the money?

Listen that train of thought isn’t helping you and it most certainly isn’t placing focus and attention on your clients, or potential clients.

I know you know this!

But, regardless of what you think and feel, you also know, to thrive not just survive as a spiritual business owner, you need to move away from the main stream.

That is the doom and gloom mind set and concentrate and place laser focus on creating your own economy.

So, whether you are looking to learn ‘how to sell your services’ as a consulting or coaching business, at the forefront of every message you put out there needs to be your vision and mission.

What is your WHY?

The truth about why you became a spiritual business owner in pursuit of selling your services to the people whom you are trying to reach, is just as important as your service or product.

Think about the people you do business with, you resonate with them in some way.

So, the more the real you is at the forefront of the way you sell your service, the more you feel authentic and in integrity with telling your ‘story’.

Conducting our spiritual business this way, allows us to operate more confidently and align our core values with getting our services in front of the people we are meant to serve.

You are going to be having those ‘money conversations’ and feeling worthy of getting paid for the incredible value you bring to the table as a spiritual business owner is a must!

So who do you want to become more of as a spiritual business owner?

I’m guessing that even though you might want to sell your product or service to a business, online or offline, a client face to face or over the phone, customers in local area or global reach, in an email with relationship marketing, to a company through LinkedIn, for a $5 on Fivver, Facebook, Groupon or even Amazon, at the core of everything you do is following your ‘bliss’ or your unique SOUL Purpose.

So, if this is the case, just tell that truth!

There is nothing wrong, in fact there is everything right, with creating a spiritual business to be of greater service in the world.

The even greater part is when you allow others to pay you for your service or product, that way you doing more and more of the work you love and you get to reach more people as you are able to invest in your self, your lifestyle, your marketing and your business.

But, you can’t get paid unless you learn how to sell your products and services in a way that feels good to you.

So what would feel good, no, great to you?

What do you secretly envision?

Telling the truth works right across the board, this could be knowing;

  • How to sell your consulting services
  • How to sell your professional services
  • How to sell your coaching services
  • How to sell your writing services
  • How to sell your web services

It’s no good being in business, if you are going to stay stuck in a rut and keep playing small.

Where’s the fun in hiding behind closed doors giving lip service to your own goal??

The next step, is for you to learn how to sell your services like a ninja!!


It takes the fear out of selling, success and failure!!

You need to feel comfortable with fearlessly receiving financial prosperity as you grow your spiritual business to the next level.

So why do you need to master selling your services?

If you do not know how to sell your services and products ‘effortlessly’, you are not only doing yourself a disservice, but your loved ones and your clients and their loved ones.

That’s not said to tug on your heart strings well perhaps just a little.

The main thing here, is to help you see yourself being the spiritual business owner who no longer needs to hide behind excuses, telling yourself and others ‘fear based lies’.

So will you do what you came here for?

Learn to how to sell YOUR services and products more efficiently?

The feeling of delivering value comes from within.

That is how worthy you feel.

If you are just starting out you might not feel accomplished yet. If you’ve been in business for years, you might feel as though you have to ‘dumb’ yourself down so as not to seem like you are bragging.

That’s ALL low vibration stuff.

I say this because focusing on the ‘how to sell your services and products’ comes from an action oriented space.

It’s not just knowing more about how to, but it is rather to come from a place of being of service in the world as my mentor says ‘higher vibration selling’.

When you have clarity and support around fulfilling your vision and mission, you see helping others achieve results as more of a partnership.

You are not selling anything they don’t find of value, who wouldn’t find unlocking their highest potential of value?

It’s not at all surprising that knowing how to sell your services in a way that feels authentic can be somewhat of a challenge.

Chances are you are reading this because you have either tried and ‘failed’ (remember there is no failure only feedback) you are about to get yourself out there or you’ve been doing this a while now and you want to put a different spin on things.

We both know where ever you are, is just where you need to be, right?

So, learn to be okay with telling the truth about where you are, who you are and what you want to accomplish.

This makes life, marketing and business so much more enjoyable.


Because you forget about learning how to sell your services and come from a space of how can I share my gifts talents and abilities with the people I am here to serve.

My mentor asked me yesterday… what my why was.

My why to speaking with you today in a heart centred way even though I have mild Irlen and Dyslexia and doing what I do…

“There is no going back for me, this is embedded into me, it’s a way of life for me. I’ve burnt my bridges, this is it!!”

He said say it again, now write that down and look at it every day and especially when you feel you are not having such a great day!

  • So what’s your why?
  • Why do you do or want to do what you want to do?

Chances are you never signed-up for the selling part, right?

Well, if you are a spiritual business owner, you’ll know by now you have to get good at selling, no scratch that, you have to learn to ‘sales mastery’ in order for your spiritual business to grow and match the level of your unique SOUL Purpose.

So, how do you sell more of your services, the long and short of it is, feel good about what you are selling!!


Well feeling good about what you are selling, in a nut shell means feeling good about you!

Your spiritual business is an extension of the spiritual YOU.

You need to come from mind set that will ease your negative associations of selling if you are to learn how to sell your services without feeling like you are selling your soul!

This often brings with it huge challenges on how to overcome money blocks.

Are you open to receiving money for your gift, your passion and purpose in life?


Knowing about how to sell your services isn’t really about selling.

In fact, it’s letting go of the ‘selling part’ ALL together and instead working on your relationship with money! Sorry!

It is more likely that you don’t feel worthy of getting paid what you are really worth, than fear of selling that is holding you back from selling your services and products to clients, customers, to a business or a company.

Think about it, you are here, there is so much information out there on selling, you could learn and apply it today, but what’s really holding you back?

Is it your vibration around money?

Are you charging what you are really worth, or are you working for low cost or free?

The problem is probably going to be in how much value you believe you are adding to others and how much that is worth.

That it not for you to worry about, go and ask the people you are here to service.

Ask them how you can best serve them and do it.

Raise your vibration as Stuart Wilde once said and then when you do and you start attracting more clients, make sure you have a way to bill them!

My hope is to demystify how to sell your services. I hope that telling the truth works for you.

Your Marketing Soul Plan for 2008

If traditional marketing plans work so well how come more woman business owners don’t make them?

Because they’re boring, that’s why.

I mean, really, creating a traditional marketing plan is about as exciting as picking lint off of a sweater. Hardly the stuff to feed and nourish inspiration!

Plus, for the soul-inspired woman entrepreneur, a traditional marketing plan fails to capture the heart and spirit of our dreams and ambitions.

So I’ve created an alternative marketing plan that skillfully weaves together marketing must-haves with what matters most to furthering our Soul’s Divine Mission(TM).

Here are five key elements you can use to create your own Marketing Soul Plan for 2008 and make this year, YOUR year!

Marketing Soul Plan Element #1: Clarity

Who are you most attracted to working with who will pay for what you offer? There is no virtue in trying to help women entrepreneurs who don’t value what you do. Instead, choose a tribe of women entrepreneurs who are hungry and eager to have their problem solved and are generous in paying for that help.

Marketing Soul Plan Element #2: Money

Who else wants to be a Spiritual Millionaire(TM)? I do, and I am well on my way to achieving that goal with my woman owned business. If you’re one of those woman business owners who have been holding back from allowing money to flow abundantly into your business (and hence, your life) then it’s time to do some soul-searching to clear out your old money stories.

Yes, it’s okay to be spiritual AND rich… so how much do you want to make in 2008? Choose a number to include in your Marketing Soul Plan that is both a stretch and realistic. Write it down, and then decide how much you want to create every 90 days and write those numbers down too. Stay focused on your Marketing Soul Plan numbers as you decide how you spend your time each day.

Marketing Soul Plan Element #3: Boundaries

The road to success isn’t paved with good intentions (or affirmations); it’s lined with great boundaries that honor you and your Soul’s Divine Mission(TM). What are five boundaries that you’ve been soft on? Those are costing you big time in lost focus, lost income and a lost sense of your own personal power. List them out in your Marketing Soul Plan along with one small action you, as a woman entrepreneur, are a commitment to taking to clean up each of them.

Marketing Soul Plan Element #4: Perfectionism

Perfectionism is fear in disguise. It’s simply a smoke-screen that women entrepreneurs’ egos create to keep them playing small or hiding out. Include in your Marketing Soul Plan this statement: “I agree, commit and promise to take action BEFORE I feel ready, BEFORE I feel that I know enough and BEFORE I know how it’s all going to turn out!” Then do it and see how much you leapfrog ahead of where you are now.

Marketing Soul Plan Element #5: Receiving

There’s no point in practicing gratitude and attraction principles if you aren’t also practicing receiving. If you believe that the universe wants to give to your woman owned business then you must be skilled at receiving. So where to practice? How about starting by raising your fees, asking for a referral or even just accepting a compliment with a gracious “Thank you?”

My vision for you is that 2008 is truly YOUR year. Use these simple guidelines to create your own Marketing Soul Plan and it will be!